Saturday, January 15, 2011

Once Upon a Time...

Once upon a time, there lived a beautiful princess in the magical forest. She was by far the prettiest and smartest girl in the whole land. She dreamed of the day she would meet her prince charming. Then one day, a wicked woman ruined her life and the princess was in shambles. However, she new one day her knight in shiny armor would rescue her. She could only imagine what he would look like and what a gentleman he would be. He was going to be PERFECT! Just wait.... "he will come and carry me away and we will live happily ever after!!!" She said.

Ookkaayyy, so was this correct for you ladies? Did your knight in shiny armor come, rescue you and treat you perfect ever after? Yea right.... but you can guarantee that God has chosen your husband just for you and that with God being placed first in the marriage, he CAN make your marriage a "happily ever after".
We need to not put such high expectations on our husbands, let our husbands off the hook. When we were little girls, we watch so many princess movies, that we put those dreamland expectation on our husbands. Then when reality kicks in we are mad, upset and just want to give up on the marriage.
Sisters, if you are struggling in a marriage, try letting go of what you think your man should be doing or how you think he should act. Let him be, and he will come around. I know it's easier said than done-- just challenge yourself for even 2 weeks to a month and see how God changes your marriage. Try not expecting your happiness to come from your man, but from God. If you feel lonely, hang out with a girlfriend. If you feel rejected, look in the mirror and say "you are worthy and God loves you". God wants to be your very present help. He thinks you are the cats whiskers- call on Him and ask Him to show you how He sees you. Take some time and jot down or think about your best qualities. Focus on doing things you enjoy, things you are good at and find a hobby.
I want to add, that I am not saying to forget your husband altogether, he has needs. But mostly, to not put so much pressure on him to be that perfect husband. You will find greater happiness, when he is doing things for you without your asking. You will find greater peace, when you are not using your energy to nag or complain. If your husband is not doing what you think he should do, approach him with a loving heart-be gentle. God is gentle and loving as He speaks to you, right? Please hang in there, Satan is after marriage in today's society and wants to crush this holy union between two people that became as one. God is with you and has given you power to defeat and to win.
God CAN change any marriage, no matter how difficult it looks, God can do anything. Trust in Him, lean on Him and pray for change in you and your husbands heart. Blessings to you in your marriage!

Ephesians 5:33
33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.


Proverbs 15:1-2

1 A gentle answer turns away wrath,
   but a harsh word stirs up anger.

 2 The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge,
   but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.



Challenge: Speak gentle words of praise to your husband! Get the idea of a knight in shiny armor out of your head and be thankful for the husband God has given you!

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